I decided to write this week’s post in my other pretty much abandoned blog about faith. I just wanted to reference it here so that some of my Jesus group friends who sometimes peruse this blog could see that post. Thank you, ladies! I can’t express how much joy and clarity you bring to my life.
So, I resolved to not be such a complete slob at home, and it has now become clear that I really need to extend that to my car as well. On the homefront, things have actually been going fairly well. The countertops and kitchen table have stayed mostly clutter-free, and the laundry room and pantry have stayed organized. Sure, there is clean laundry in the living room that needs to be put away, but all the dirty clothes had been making their way to the hamper until yesterday when my children and their cousins decided to scatter the clothes all over the bathroom floor in an attempt to climb inside said hamper during a game of hide-and-seek (Note to self: set better groundrules next time the kids have a playdate).
Back to the car, though. About once a month, my office has a birthday lunch, and we all go out to eat. I usually try to catch a ride with someone else or make up some other excuse so that no one sees the inside of my car. Last Friday, though, I was caught off guard when one of my co-workers asked me for a ride. I couldn’t think of an excuse fast enough, so I agreed and instantly went into a state of panic. You see, my car is a total and complete wreck on the inside. There are always toys, jackets, empty Happy Meal boxes, juice boxes, snacks, wadded up napkins, and sometimes even a petrified chicken nugget or french fry on the floorboard. And I can’t blame it all on the kids. There are usually also receipts and junk mail and empty containers and cups from my own meals. It’s disgusting. I try to clean out the big trash every week or so, but that still leaves all the crumbs from the countless meals that get dropped on the floors.
I thought about running down ahead of time to see if I could straighten it up a bit, but (maybe keeping with my resolutions to be more honest and not care as much about what others think) I didn’t. I’m a slob, and I should feel the shame that comes with that instead of trying to hide it. He, of course, was very gracious about it and assured me the car was fine (while sitting atop some junk mail I had left on the passenger seat), but I knew better.
So, I need to add another resolution:
16. Keep my car in such a state that I won’t be completely embarassed next time I have an unexpected passenger.
OK, so it’s already seven days in to 2013, but it’s still the first week of the year(barely), and it wouldn’t be me if it didn’t take me an extra long time to get around to things. So, I’m making my list of resolutions. I make them every year, and, inevitably, I lose sight of them a month or so in. I think I’ve discovered why, though. I’m really bad about underestimating how much time and effort it takes to do things. Or, more accurately, I OVERESTIMATE what I can do. So, the first thing on my list is to be more honest. Not only to everyone else but to myself. I need to realize that there are just certain things I won’t do–at least not without the right motivation. I’ve always been a bit scatterbrained and easily distracted, so I have to do things like give myself deadlines, make lists, break up projects in to small portions. Lofty, nebulous goals don’t work for me. I need a plan with concrete details. So, I’m going to try to come up with a list of goals that are measurable, or, if not measurable, come up with ways to achieve the goal.
1. Be more honest with myself and others. OK, I can’t really think of a concrete way to make that happen or a way to measure that. I suppose making this list will be an ongoing project.
2. Get fit and healthy. I got down to my goal weight back in July, and I’ve put almost 10 pounds back on. I got into that mindset where I thought I could just “maintain” after I lost the weight, but apparently eating whatever I want is not “maintaining.” So, I’m going to try changing my lifestyle instead. I’m going to a) limit myself to fast food no more than twice a week (I know it’s still a lot, but I’ve gotten into a bad habit of eating fast food when I’m out running errands with the kids); b) incorporate vegetables into every meal I cook; c) take the stairs at work; d) get at least some exercise three times a week.
3. Read 52 books.
4. Blog once a week.
5. Finish every craft project I start.
6. Spend more quality time with my kids. I will a) set aside at least 10 minutes of special time with each child every day; b) have a mommy/son date with each child at least once a month.
7. Not be such a complete slob at home. Seriously, I’m a complete slob. I can keep my office passably neat at work because, well, it’s work, and I kind of want to keep my job. But my home is always a mess. The kitchen table and countertop are always piled with junk, there are always toys and clothes strewn all over the floor all over the house, and there are almost always dirty dishes in the sink. I’ve definitely gotten into high gear with this one, though. I’ve spent the last week or so cleaning and organizing room after room in the house. The hard part is going to be finding a way to motivate me and my family to keep it up.
8. Not care so much what others think about me. (Maybe that’s part of the honesty thing?)
9. Really work on my faith. It’s something I’ve been struggling with the past couple of years, and with the help of some wonderful friends, I’m starting to find my way, but I still have a long way to go.
10. Pay off a bill.
11. Do some traveling! The traveling bug has bitten me bad. I want to go. Anywhere. A foreign country would be preferable, but I’ll take any place exciting.
12. Be a better wife. It seems that in trying to find time for work and parenting and myself, I sometimes forget to carve out time for my husband. (Why am I starting to notice a pattern of needing more time for everything I want to accomplish here?)
13. Be a better friend. I need to stop making excuses for not spending enough time with or for my friends.
14. Be a better listener. That would probably help out with the above two things.
15. Be more generous.